I’m so sad that you are going through such a hard time and I wish there was something I could do to fix it. I want you to know that I've been there, but at the same time I know that our situations aren't the same and I don't feel what you're feeling right now.
I just want you to know that even though I can’t change your situation, I’ll listen. I’ll cry with you and I’ll listen. I’m sorry if I do too much talking, it’s just that I feel so helpless and I don’t want you to feel like no-one cares that you’re going through an impossible time.
Losing someone you love is horrible, especially when it’s someone who has been part of your life from birth. It’s hard to imagine what the future will be like without them. If anything, you need to believe even more in what you believed before and let hope be part of your worldview. That’s not an easy task when you you’re in the process of saying goodbye to someone you love.
You need to know that even in the midst of the pain, I completely believe that things are going to get better. They may get worse first. You will probably try to work out why your life has gone so crazy. Life can be a lot harder that expected, a lot harder than people lead you to believe. But please, don’t give up on believing that there will be good things in your life and that there are better times to come. Don't let yourself think that you are alone.
You may have been lied to – that if you just believed enough that only good things would happen. That’s not really the way things are. But I promise you that there will be better times.
All we can really do is live. We can live like zombies who are detached from the possibility of hurt, or we can LIVE. I hope that even in the midst of these hard times when you see the hardest side of life, that you don’t forget that life offers joy as well as sadness. That you will let yourself laugh even when you are grieving.
Please don’t isolate yourself. Let us help you live through these days of pain. There will be better times. Let’s not pretend. But these times are real, but I hope you will allow us walk through them with you. My ability to help you may be seriously flawed, but please understand that I am with you in this, and I’m not the only one.